Dear Self 9 years ago,
So you are about to have twin girls! Yes, it is very scary, but everything is going to be OK. Avery is NOT going to be "slow." In fact, she is going to be a straight A student! And if it takes her longer to roll over, walk, talk, potty train, etc. that is ok too. Eventually, she will get it and when she does, you will have done all that worrying for nothing. Now, when you leave the hospital and the girls have to stay behind it will seem like forever, but it's only a month. Don't have a nervous breakdown! They will still know you are their mommy and they are in good hands. Trust me, you will need this time to rest because when they do come home, it will be an eternity before you get to sleep soundly again. Don't worry about being perfect and raising them "the right way." They will grow up to be who they are not because you did anything miraculous, but because they were born with the heart and soul they have. They will be kind and loving. They will be calm and helpful. Don't lose patience with them too quick. You can't be so concerned with raising a good child that you forget you already have one.
You will decide to be a stay at home mom early on. It will be hard and stressful a LOT of the time, but never regret making that decision! It will be the best thing you do. Don't bug their doctor all the time! Looking up symptoms on the internet yourself isn't a great idea either. When they start school don't be that mom outside the door crying your eyes out while they are happy as can be! Be proud for their milestones instead of disappointed in the fact they are growing up too fast. When people say "You are so lucky to have twins, it's like having a built in babysitter since they have each other to play with" slap those people in the face! It won't be like that! They will fight and make twice the mess, be twice as loud, and cost twice as much! Don't put pressure on yourself to give them the world. They already have the world in a great family, a home, and lots of love. Make sure you teach them this!!! By the time they are 9, you will feel like they are grown up. They won't need you as much, they will be starting 3rd grade and talking on the phone with their friends. Spend time with them individually. They DO still need you and 9 years old isn't really that old at all! Always know you are doing the best you can and that's enough. And last of all, let this be a WARNING to you, when the subject comes up later about having more kids, pretend to be asleep!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just kidding!! LOVE MY GIRLS!!
Sincerely,
Britt 2012
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